*I have heard this soooo much recently, I have to admit I hated it at first. I winced every time someone told it to me.
But the truth was the people whom were saying this were successful people. The type of people I look up too and well, want to be.
I couldn’t ignore advice of intelligent, creative, successful entrepreneurs.
Let me tell you why I hated this phrase: Simply because the word fake is in the sentence.
Yep, that’s the only reason.
I felt like a liar “faking it.” It felt inauthentic. It felt disrespectful.
I don’t want to fake it, I want to be perfect at it and then show everybody.
I have perpetual compulsions to be 100% transparent, making me awful at faking anything.
In essence taking the phrase “fake it till you make it” at face value is a key reason a lot of us feel other people have the secret to success.
Because it quite literally looks like they do!
We look at them with their perfect Instagram photos, book deals, friend count and chronically compare.
Not considering the long messy hours of hard work and countless years of connecting, dreaming that has led them up to that moment.
Their secret sauce isn’t that they have it all figured out.
Their secret sauce isn’t that they have no fear.
Their secret sauce isn’t that they are perfect.
Their secret sauce isn’t that they have some extra human talent.
Their secret sauce is they “fake it till they make it.”
They do the work… no matter what… Without being perfect.
What I translate this phrase to mean is this:
“What if you just feel the fear. Feel the doubt. Feel the whatever. Then my dear soul, Do It Anyway!”
THIS feels better! This feels authentic. This is what I hear them saying now and I love it!
You just have to do it, dive in, figure it out, overcome and keep going.
“Do it anyway. Fake it till you make it.”
Melody Ross told me, while I was sharing some fears of mine with her, “Do it anyway.”
It is a phrase she uses in her work often including in this gorgeous video.
(After hearing this I wrote the above thoughts. She has a gorgeous article called “Be Patient with life important things take time” have a read.
Xo much love to you Melody for the constant inspiration you are to us all!
P.s. Last photo taken of Erin Faith Allen at Call of the Wild Soul